Why You Should Listen to Your Inner Voice

Inner Voice, Inner Knowing, Higher Self, Soul, Purpose

I would venture to guess that most of us are not living a life led by our inner voice. If it weren’t for a recent jolting life experience (see previous post), I would still be struggling to meet external standards of success while sacrificing my own precious happiness. I was always living by “the book” — killing myself to meet all of society’s rules for schooling, and working, and spending, and saving, et cetera. I totally bought into ideas like, “not everyone can work their dream job,” that “work should be hard,” that our “success is directly proportionate to how hard we work,” that “we should work to live.” These ideas do not have to be true, unless we believe them! In fact, whatever we believe will become our reality.

Inner Voice, Higher Self, Inner Knowing, Soul, Purpose

This year, in hopes of creating a much happier reality, I am choosing to believe differently. After surviving some difficult experiences over the past few years (loss of a parent, miscarriage, serious debt, etc), it’s become blissfully clear to me that there’s nothing more important than following our own happiness, and the fastest way to get there is by listening to our inner voice. This voice is our soul guiding us to our soul’s purpose. There is nothing that can make us happier in life than living our soul’s dream.

Inner Voice, Inner Knowing, Higher Self, Soul, Purpose

So, I’m swapping out old ideals of hard work and serious business for dreams. It may sound totally Pollyana-ish and airy fairy and woo woo and all the rest, but I’m willing to bet that 2019 is my happiest year on record.

If I were still hellbent on following societal norms, I would be feverishly pushing myself to apply for bigger, better law firm jobs and would be striving to get published in law journals and striving to serve as an officer for various legal groups, and adding more pro bono hours to my resume, BUT my inner voice just says, “BLEH!” I, the big me, the cosmic me, does not want to do any of that.  Cosmic me LOVES working on this blog and wants to start designing a new website and writing personal development content for more regular posts. Cosmic me wants to be a blogger, author, life coach, Reiki master, and healer.

Inner Voice, Inner Knowing, Higher Self, Soul, Purpose

Yes, it’s SO scary to follow my inner voice — especially when everyone around me seems to disapprove of where it’s leading! No one says, “Go, squander your law degree and the hundreds of thousands of debt you incurred and follow your dreams.” No one says, “Try for a 3rd career at age 37 with a 2 year old and one on the way! The most important thing is that you’re happy!” NO ONE says this, except me, which is all I need.

Inner Voice, Inner Knowing, Higher Self, Soul, Purpose

The reason I know that listening to my inner voice is working is because I am so much happier already! I don’t feel stifled and depressed and bored and restless – I feel lighter and freer and creative and in alignment with me. Just a little bit of passion-project time goes a long way!

Your inner voice is SO important. It’s you. It’s the real, authentic you. It wants nothing more than to be seen and heard and expressed in the world. It is your purpose in this life, and abiding by it is critical to finding and cultivating happiness.

Please feel free to share your thoughts. I would love to hear your stories around purpose, inner voice, and happiness!


Divine. God. Sacred.

This morning, as my husband and I struggled to get our two-year old to the bathroom to brush his teeth, I could feel the patience running threadbare in each of us. Our little boy had already been up since 5:45 a.m., and we’d just talked him down from a near-cookie-calamity — what were we thinking leaving Girl Scout cookies in plain sight?! As this potential breaking point escalated, I suddenly remembered my commitment to change this year; I remembered that I wanted the energy in our home to be different. Out of nowhere, I felt called to my breath. With a conscious inhalation and exhalation, I heard the words “Divine. God.” It was a powerful reset. Perhaps the best thing we can do each day to remain in a positive place and manifest a more positive life is to remember our connection to Source.

I tucked that bit of wisdom away for a calmer moment and carried on in the race against the morning clock. During my commute, I remembered the imparted words, “Divine. God.” and this time the word “Sacred” came through to complete the expression. Divine. God. Sacred. The meaning was simple to me — we are divine because we are one with God, and this oneness is absolutely sacred. That was it. That seemed all I needed to know — in that moment and possibly ever.

Of course, as I so appreciate, Source would send me a few more signs all aligned in the same direction, just to make sure I got the message. As I tuned into The Lively Show just moments later, the episode I’d absentmindedly chosen (#301) was all about turning to the inner voice and allowing it to be our primary guide. Host Jess Lively conducted a recorded session with her client from the place of her inner voice, almost as a channeling of the divine within her, or of the non-physical part of her, as Abraham Hicks would term it. Lively’s inner voice continually calls her client back to the present moment each time her client presses on for advice about what to do in life and work. Lively’s inner voice simply repeats, “All is well” and “There is nothing wrong.” Her inner voice is so totally calm, and as she points out, it’s as if her “job” right now in this world is simply to vibrate at these higher, calmer frequencies — the frequencies our brain enters when we are in a meditative or exalted state. From this state, we can achieve the vibrational alignment that is necessary to use the Law of Attraction for positive manifestation.

As Abraham Hicks breaks down for us again and again, the Law of Attraction works as follows:

  1. We ask — this is easy and automatic; it comes out of our mere existence as vibrational beings.  
  2. The answer is given — the Universe immediately responds to our requests.
  3. We allow — we must tune our vibration to the frequency of our desire (a.k.a. get into alignment); if we are not vibrating in alignment with our desires, the desires will not manifest. We must get into a positive frequency to attract positive desires. Abraham reminds us that our natural state is well-being. Dr. Wayne Dyer would add that this is so because we are one with God, and since God is love, we are love. It is only when we get caught up in worldly life that we stray from our natural state of wellness and love and divinity.

This is why staying in connection with our higher source / higher self is so key to manifesting. When we are connected to Source, we are automatically in alignment and can then stay in a place of deliberate manifestation.

I’ve been guided to this realization over the past few days and believe this is the answer for me right now. Just last Friday, my sister randomly recommended Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead by Tosha Silver.  Of course, I immediately listened on Audible, and the thing that struck me most was the calmness and tranquility in Silver’s voice as she narrates the audiobook. It was just like Jess Lively’s inner voice — so very calm and so much more simplistic than the hurried and contorted gymnastics of the ego mind. She challenges us to let go of all of the demands and contortions of our minds and, instead, follow and trust in our inner voice, or connection to Source. This divinely inspired place is where we want to manifest from.

Then, yesterday, in a rare hour by myself, I felt drawn to skim the Super Soul Sunday recordings in my DVR, which I hadn’t done in weeks. There, I found only one episode I hadn’t yet seen: Oprah Winfrey’s interview with Brother David Steindl-Rast, a benedictine monk. Steindl-Rast emphasized and repeated that the most important thing in our human journey is to trust life. Trusting in life means trusting in Source and in its love for us. When we do this, we are in a complete state of calm. We are in alignment. Positive manifestations flow.

Okay, Source. I get it. Let us quiet our minds. All is well. Nothing is wrong. If we listen to our inner knowing, we are, in fact, listening to you and opening ourselves to co-creation with you, the divine, which is far greater than anything we could possibly imagine or create on our own.

I have to assume, after all of my failed attempts to force my way to “success”, that there’s a better way. I see now that I’m a recovering over-achiever. I over-achieved my way through graduate school and then worked as a college English instructor for a few years. I then over-achieved my way through law school and currently work as an attorney. Still, I haven’t found “success” in my every day work life — fulfillment, inspiration, joy, financial abundance, financial security, et cetera. Of course, I experience moments of these positive states, but it’s not the kind of light-me-up, holy shit, life is amazing kind of “success” I was expecting after all of my painstaking efforts.

Of course, I know now that I was letting my mind do the leading. I followed all the rules, took all the career quizzes, considered ALL of the advice, weighed all the pros and cons, and I worked my tail off, but never did I really consult my heart. Deep down, I don’t think I believed it could lead me to the right place — I didn’t trust it and really didn’t even know to listen to it. Now, after some difficult-to-swallow missteps (like the unbelievably astronomical amount of debt I took-on to purchase my law degree) I know.

Divine. God. Sacred.