I would venture to guess that most of us are not living a life led by our inner voice. If it weren’t for a recent jolting life experience (see previous post), I would still be struggling to meet external standards of success while sacrificing my own precious happiness. I was always living by “the book” — killing myself to meet all of society’s rules for schooling, and working, and spending, and saving, et cetera. I totally bought into ideas like, “not everyone can work their dream job,” that “work should be hard,” that our “success is directly proportionate to how hard we work,” that “we should work to live.” These ideas do not have to be true, unless we believe them! In fact, whatever we believe will become our reality.
This year, in hopes of creating a much happier reality, I am choosing to believe differently. After surviving some difficult experiences over the past few years (loss of a parent, miscarriage, serious debt, etc), it’s become blissfully clear to me that there’s nothing more important than following our own happiness, and the fastest way to get there is by listening to our inner voice. This voice is our soul guiding us to our soul’s purpose. There is nothing that can make us happier in life than living our soul’s dream.
So, I’m swapping out old ideals of hard work and serious business for dreams. It may sound totally Pollyana-ish and airy fairy and woo woo and all the rest, but I’m willing to bet that 2019 is my happiest year on record.
If I were still hellbent on following societal norms, I would be feverishly pushing myself to apply for bigger, better law firm jobs and would be striving to get published in law journals and striving to serve as an officer for various legal groups, and adding more pro bono hours to my resume, BUT my inner voice just says, “BLEH!” I, the big me, the cosmic me, does not want to do any of that. Cosmic me LOVES working on this blog and wants to start designing a new website and writing personal development content for more regular posts. Cosmic me wants to be a blogger, author, life coach, Reiki master, and healer.
Yes, it’s SO scary to follow my inner voice — especially when everyone around me seems to disapprove of where it’s leading! No one says, “Go, squander your law degree and the hundreds of thousands of debt you incurred and follow your dreams.” No one says, “Try for a 3rd career at age 37 with a 2 year old and one on the way! The most important thing is that you’re happy!” NO ONE says this, except me, which is all I need.
The reason I know that listening to my inner voice is working is because I am so much happier already! I don’t feel stifled and depressed and bored and restless – I feel lighter and freer and creative and in alignment with me. Just a little bit of passion-project time goes a long way!
Your inner voice is SO important. It’s you. It’s the real, authentic you. It wants nothing more than to be seen and heard and expressed in the world. It is your purpose in this life, and abiding by it is critical to finding and cultivating happiness.
Please feel free to share your thoughts. I would love to hear your stories around purpose, inner voice, and happiness!